A coaching power tool: What is real versus imagined?
Our imagination is extraordinary: it can help us innovate, learn, love, create and conversely worry, fear, panic and criticize. Anything is possible, and the story we tell ourselves can build from a word, a look, a feeling, a memory, any interaction (or lack of one). The positive and negative impact of imagination are endlessly damaging and infinitely positive and fulfilling, in sometimes very unequal measure.
How many times have we made a decision, acted in a certain way, assumed something about a situation that turned out to be wrong and based on a faulty set of data? I know I have.
The Ladder of Inference (Chris Argyris) explains why we do the things we do and why we behave in certain ways. It makes sense, and is incredibly useful to help us navigate a changing world. Without it, we would be thrashing about on the bottom rung for long periods, unable to take decisions, as we struggled to take in so much data.
The Ladder of Inference, Chris Argyris and Peter Senge
However, there is a negative impact of speedy decision-making that influences the stories we tell ourselves, and therefore the decisions we make.
The contradictory nature of our imagination: flights of fancy and gloomy despair comes from the real and the imagined, and starts at the bottom of the ladder – ‘available data’ i.e. that which one observes and experiences. We take in data (we see, hear, feel, read), we select and interpret the data ‘confirming’ what we know (my colleague said this, and therefore thinks that) to be ‘true’. We make assumptions, form conclusions and take action. Most of the time this is done subconsciously and our negative and positive stories continue to build, take shape and form part of our bank of experience and data to be drawn on, and used in a different time and place. Thus, we create a cycle – sometimes healthy, sometimes not.
Coaching can help us take time out to reflect on why our internal story is telling us the tale it is and, help you challenge before you do or think anything that isn’t helpful.
| Rungs on the Ladder of Inference | Stop! Before thinking you know the truth… Use these questions to challenge your story |
| Available date | What are the real facts that I should be using? What are the objective facts v. subjective assumptions? What is real and what is imagined? What are the stories I am telling myself really based on? What would someone else looking at this see/understand/perceive? |
| Selecting reality | What have I ignored? What have I chosen to see? What other story could be written if I chose different data? |
| Interpreting reality | Why have I chosen to interpret the data in this way? What is the other story that the data could tell me? Why have I chosen to understand the situation in this way? |
| Making assumptions | What am I assuming? What is the impact of this assumption on my story? |
| Forming conclusions | Why did I draw this conclusion? What else could be going on? |
| Adopting beliefs | What beliefs led to this action? What beliefs do I need to lead me to a different action? |
| Taking action | Why have I chosen this course of action? What might have happened had I chosen another cause of action? |
So the next time your thoughts, beliefs and actions are based on what you ‘know to be true’, take a moment to challenge where the data is coming from and how it helps your narrative develop into negative or positive actions.
